{Let Rachel Flotard of Visqueen take the sting out of your heart. Send your love advice questions her way at loveishard@threeimaginarygirls.com.}

 

Dear Rachel,

Hi. I have had a crush on a guy since July of last year. Let's call him "Steve." He is the sweetest guy I know. He is outgoing, caring, and smart — all of the things that I want in a guy.

He is also a Punk rock DJ and bartender. My point is that I can not tell if he likes me or not. Here are some of the things that he has said and done that confuse me:

He says nice things to me, winks at me, and gives me big smiles one minute than the next he is acting like he is my best friend.

Last week was my birthday and on his radio show he dedicated a song to me. The song is Jets to Brazil "Lucky Charm." I included the words in case you are not familiar with the song:

"How long will you wait for me to come around?
And wouldn't it be great if everything worked out?
I wouldn't come home late after hiding out.
I'd tell you everything.
How I couldn't life without you now.
How long will it take before I wake up unafraid to take you in my arms
and hold you like a lucky charm?
I know it's too late but wait for me to turn around.
I'm coming home so if you're leaving, walk slow.
All that I can ask is forgiveness for what's past.
You know who I am but will you know me in the end?
I know it's too late but wait for me to turn around.
I'm almost home so if you're leaving walk slow.
All that I can ask is forgiveness for what's past.
You know who I am, but will you know me in the end?
I know it's too late but wait for me to turn around.
I'm almost home, so if you're leaving, walk slow.
I know you're not waiting anymore and I'm not gonna change.
I try to reach you, to let you know, but I'm walking too slow.
Hey, how's your summer going?
It's good to see you again.
I'm gonna make a record so I never forget what it was I wrecked.
So tired of my mind.
You're a genius all the time.
The things that I can't say are all thinking me insane these days.
I know it's late."

So as you can tell, I don't know what to think. I like him a lot but I don't want to scare him off. If he doesn't have any feelings toward me then I want to still be his friend, because we have so many other things in common.

What should I do?

Please Help,
Confused and Lovesick for a DJ/Bartender

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Dear CALFADJB,

What we have here is the Crush Stalemate.

Both of you are afraid of what might happen should you act upon acting like lovies. You've been friends since last July, have some mutual respect and simmered-lovies going on — of course this is scary and confusing!

Sister, if it's getting too much for you to bear, you're going to wig and that sucks. You need to either heat up your Jets, get a Brazillian and land this little record scratcher, or cool your Jets and truly be his Bra (or Bro).

Be confident! You can let him know how you feel and come out of it ok. Hell, you might even come out of it with DJ Steve. Either way, it's win win.

Way I see it, put the needle on this record and listen up. Life's too short not to see how it plays.

PS. He's a Bartender and a DJ. You know that, right?

 

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{When she's not providing solace for the lovelorn, Rachel can be seen and heard playing for her band, Visqueen. But don't let that intimidate you! Send your love woes her way!}